Parent Participation
A good way of educating children was not a trivial matter. This must have strongly felt for those who are married and have kids like me. Parents play a major role in determining the future direction of adult life. Let us not regret in the future because it felt like a failure in educating our children. For that parents should take steps:
1. يا اَيُّهَا الّذِيْنَ امنوا قوا انفسَكم واهلِكم نارا...[At Tahrim:6]
"O ye who believe guard yourselves and your family from fire .."
Prepare yourself to be a parent quality, namely by improving themselves (physically and mentally), because parents would be like a "production machine"
Prepare yourself to be a parent quality, namely by improving themselves (physically and mentally), because parents would be like a "production machine"
2. ما من مولود الا يولد على الفطرة فابواه يهودنه او ينصرانه او يمجسانه... [Bukhari]
"It is not born a child but rather in a state of purity, then the person who played his parents make him a Jew, or Nassara, or Zoroastrian ..."
Children's education early on, will stick like carved on rock solid, but to educate children as adults such as carving above the water.
a. Since in the womb, during this already influenced the lives of children around him, especially the mother who conceived him. Therefore consider their food consumption and behavior of life (worship) them. There was a study in America revealed by Dr. John S Baer, a psychologist from the Universiry of Washington, namely: "The number and frequency of drinking alcohol pregnant women can be a benchmark of how much the child develop into an alcoholic". Also the habit of drinking alcohol can create birth defects or premature children. And including other bad habits such as smoking, because the impact is no less bad for the baby.
b. When he was born, a child like krtas white clean no marks. Begin by introducing the behavior of their lives the good life, because children begin to respond to life around him. (Perdengarkan prayer and iqomat)
c. In my childhood (0-7), educates children with a simple pattern of age-appropriate education that is playing. Although the play, at this time is a privilege which the child can quickly absorb the behavior that is imitating life. So parents should really pay attention to his behavior in front of children, because whatever he does will usually be replicated raw.
d. Onset of puberty (7-14), apply the discipline to implement practical education, especially the command of worship (prayers). Prophet Muhammad correctly said: "When the children have reached the age of seven years enjoin establish prayer, and when they have reached the age of ten years if he is negligent pukulah" [Abu Daud, Miskat]
e. Entering their teens (14-21), make them like a friend where parents position themselves to be a place for children sharing. Because at this time the child has a natural transition to adulthood, so the child's mental condition will be greatly influenced by the surrounding environment that could shape social behavior change.
f. Adulthood, this time the child is able to determine the best for her even to the surrounding environment. And this time that we can see how the results of the participation of parents in educating their children.
Children's education early on, will stick like carved on rock solid, but to educate children as adults such as carving above the water.
a. Since in the womb, during this already influenced the lives of children around him, especially the mother who conceived him. Therefore consider their food consumption and behavior of life (worship) them. There was a study in America revealed by Dr. John S Baer, a psychologist from the Universiry of Washington, namely: "The number and frequency of drinking alcohol pregnant women can be a benchmark of how much the child develop into an alcoholic". Also the habit of drinking alcohol can create birth defects or premature children. And including other bad habits such as smoking, because the impact is no less bad for the baby.
b. When he was born, a child like krtas white clean no marks. Begin by introducing the behavior of their lives the good life, because children begin to respond to life around him. (Perdengarkan prayer and iqomat)
c. In my childhood (0-7), educates children with a simple pattern of age-appropriate education that is playing. Although the play, at this time is a privilege which the child can quickly absorb the behavior that is imitating life. So parents should really pay attention to his behavior in front of children, because whatever he does will usually be replicated raw.
d. Onset of puberty (7-14), apply the discipline to implement practical education, especially the command of worship (prayers). Prophet Muhammad correctly said: "When the children have reached the age of seven years enjoin establish prayer, and when they have reached the age of ten years if he is negligent pukulah" [Abu Daud, Miskat]
e. Entering their teens (14-21), make them like a friend where parents position themselves to be a place for children sharing. Because at this time the child has a natural transition to adulthood, so the child's mental condition will be greatly influenced by the surrounding environment that could shape social behavior change.
f. Adulthood, this time the child is able to determine the best for her even to the surrounding environment. And this time that we can see how the results of the participation of parents in educating their children.
SOURCE:
Al Qur an Karim
Riyadus Shalihin
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